Confidently Create

Love and Connection

TODAY

Prevent resentment and overwhelm or worse separation.

Even with a crazy shift schedule, workplace trauma that comes home, or a non-communicative spouse

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Decrease loneliness and isolation

24-72 hour work schedules are normal.  The feelings of loneliness and isolation can go beyond the work hours, eroding the precious time you do have together and creep into other areas of life.

Prevent build-up of resentment and overwhelm

When the small day-to-day slights build up over time they begin to solidify and become negative relationship habits that increase the feelings of distance and overwhelm which lead to resentment and depression.

Reduce divorce

When we reduce resentment, overwhelm, trauma, and loneliness we move away from separation towards love and connection.

If you are a fire or first responder spouse

 Looking to have a long happy relationship while living with crazy schedules, a partner who has workplace trauma that bleeds over into home life, and/or part-time single parenting then you already know you
need a strong foundation of love, connection, communication, and appreciation.

So I’ll spare you the spiel 

No need to be a broken record telling you being in a relationship with a hero is hard.  

You already know that relationships take work and left untended can lead to resentment, loneliness, or worse yet, divorce.

You’ve probably heard that divorce, affairs, and marriage stress are high with first responder families.

Here’s what you might not know

 

Even if you are lucky enough that both you and your spouse have survived so much already…having relationship coaching can:

Decrease loneliness and isolation

24-72 hour work schedules are normal.  The feelings of loneliness and isolation can go beyond the work hours, eroding the precious time you do have together and creep into other areas of life.

 

Increase connection when physically together and apart

Connection is more than two people existing in the same space.  Connection requires thought development.

 

Empower you to handle inevitable workplace trauma

Trauma is part of the job.  It is impossible to keep a total separation between work and home.  Having tools to help yourself and your partner take care of each other during challenges is vital to growing together and not apart.  

 

Prevent build-up of resentment and overwhelm

When the small day-to-day slights build up over time they begin to solidify and become negative relationship habits that increase the feelings of distance and overwhelm which lead to resentment and depression.

 

Reduce divorce

When we reduce resentment, overwhelm, trauma, and loneliness we move away from separation towards love and connection.

Leads to appreciation and joy

Taking care of our relationships today is what gives us access to the appreciation and joy we most desire right now and into the future.

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Even though the reasons to pursue improving your relationship with coaching are obvious, the path to doing it successfully is anything but.

A better marriage.  Amazing!

But where do you start?

 

Every day you are a busy machine keeping family, jobs, and home life moving forward, all while one spouse comes and goes on a frequent basis.  

 

Everyone is trying their best, but energy and time run thin.  Even when you can get a ‘date night’ between the high expectations of the precious time together and spillover job stresses you can still feel the erosion of disconnection.  

 

Here’s why most couples get stuck in patterns that pull us apart:

We have been taught to take care of other people and not how to take care of ourselves so we can fully show up with unconditional love.

 

Here’s why this is so crippling.

Love is just like forgiveness.  If you cannot forgive yourself it doesn’t matter how much someone else forgives you.

Our partner cannot fully express themselves if the only way for us to feel love is for them to be ‘ok’ or to act in a particular way.

We know how to give unconditional love because there are many things we love before they do anything to ‘deserve it’, yet when we do not practice giving it to ourselves love becomes conditional.

The way we treat and talk to ourselves becomes the way we act and perceive our life.

The 3 reasons most relationships fail

Believe marriage is hard AND you should be able to figure it out on your own

Hard things are not meant to be taken on alone and often need an outside perspective that is not in the middle of that hard to bring a change.

You would:

  • Go to a parent educator when your kids behavior has gone from occasionally difficult to frequently
  • Seek help from a social worker when caring for a parent with Alzheimer's and you can no longer keep your cool, telling them the same thing yet again and you don’t want to take your frustration out on them as their condition deteriorates.
  • Hire a plumber when the drip has become a puddle and you don’t want the pipe to burst 
You deserve and need support with hard things.

You would feel better if the circumstances were different

There are some circumstances that will not change because you and your spouse want them.  
  • Your job(s)/school- even though the schedules are crazy, and they have high stress and demands 
  • Your family- taking care of kids, parents, animals and home, even though they have many needs that are dependent on you and your spouse
  • Your relationship- even though it may be difficult right now you are not ready to give it up

 

If something doesn’t change you know in your gut the outcomes will not be what you want.

You would feel better if your partner would act differently

When our own mental health and wellbeing is dependent on someone else's actions then we create a victim relationship

  • This leaves both people powerless because neither of you want to be a victim or victimizer.  

When one person takes responsibility for their own well-being it frees the other to take care of their own as well.

     

I’m going to let you in on a 

Dirty Little Secret

 Even though at their core our spouses are amazing, we were fully committed to a long-lasting relationship and we knew being a first responder family was going to be hard.

There are still more fire ex-spouses than spouses.  

And the main reason for this, as you are likely to know by now, is that a good heart carries you a long way….

-that left on your own the difficulties are overwhelming.

But as long as you get the support and tools that others missed there is a path towards building the relationship of your dreams.

One that allows you to have the most important things you want and have love, connection, appreciation, and positive mental health growth.

The keys to this are in the tools of self-coaching.

And with your permission, that’s what I would love to show you how to do.

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Introducing

Foundations of Change: Building a Loving Relationship

With Coach Cori Myka

The complete guide to true self-care so you can grow the love, connection, and appreciation you most desire.

Foundations of Change: Relationship Care Essential is the only course of it’s kind that:

  1. Gives support and tools to the hard parts of being a first responder family
  2. Knows some circumstances will not change but there can be less suffering and division
  3. Your partner despite being a hero to the community may not always be willing or able to be the hero at home.
  4. Knows you are good enough, but we are plagued with our own criticism, doubt and negative self-image 

So if you are finally ready to have the support and tools to build a great relationship and avoid regret, separation, and loss here’s how we will get you there.

Wait, that's not all!

We are about over-delivery here.  So in addition to the 6-week course, you get

3 one-on-one personal coaching sessions

After all, our goal is to support you with your individual situation.

See how you can succeed

Start shifting how you experience your relationship right now with a full tour.  By taking the tour you are showing yourself that there is hope.  You will have new ideas to consider right now to help you on a new path.

 

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Here is what you are getting when you enroll today:

Foundations of Changing: Building a Loving Relationship

6- week online course $300 value

Videos and readings teaching essential tools

10 minute daily practice

Downloadable worksheets to use right away or again in the future

3 Personal coaching session $600 value

Help with your exact problems

Answer questions about the tools

Support in your journey

Bonus lessons within each weekly module $300 value

If you like extra credit, it is there for you!

Have an extra busy week,  it is there for you to come back to

When you add it all up, that’s a value of $1200

But when you enroll today, you will get access to everything for just $150

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You know you are ready to build the relationship of your dreams with Foundations of Change: Building a Loving Relationships if/when

  • You want to take care of yourself and your relationship.
  • You want the right tools that will withstand all the variables that the future inevitably holds.
  • You know that you make up 50% of the relationship and that a change in you will make a change in the relationship.
  • You are the kind of person who has already put work and heart into your relationship but wants different ways to make it better.
  • You have a deep desire to build a long-lasting relationship that is healthy for both of you and nothing will stop you from figuring it out.
  • You know at your core both you and your spouse love and want your relationship and can see a long time together, but not if it continues as it currently exists.
  • You know that you need your own support and true self care to have the ability to contribute to your relationship without arguments, nagging, or blaming.

If you said “yes” to at least 3 of the above statements, then we look forward to seeing you inside Foundations of Change: Building a Loving Relationship

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